How to Be the Realest YOU, you can be!
So this one is going to be one hell of a rant so sorry in advance!
Scrolling through Facebook is a lot of fun until FB decides "I have a post I KNOW you'll love".... Dear FB you don't get me at ALL!! In case it isn't already EXTREMELY obvious, I am a strong willed feminist that believes I deserve more than a some guy who kind of sort of cares about me and only when I match his desires EXACTLY. So when I come across articles like "How to attract men" or "How to get your crush to notice you" my blood boils to explosive levels.
First off, why are women writing these trash articles to began with? I'm sorry are you ENCOURAGING men to to undermine women?! Please princesses, step aside and let the Queens do their job. So in light of my pure hatred of this ridiculous culture of women having to chase men for attention, I decided to make my own blog about "How to be the realest You, you can be!" But first let me clarify that the reason these women give such TERRIBLE advice is because they get paid to do so. It is a cycle. Follow bad advice, end up more depressed with more problems, read more "self-help" articles, become even more miserable and keep the cycle going so they get paid more and more for your struggles. The more you read, the more money they make. Now I am writing this article because I want to be a part of the growth we all deserve for both men and women alike. Because the day women accept their true potential and worth is the day men finally get their shit together and become more human then animal.
DO
Look in the mirror every day and call out at least 5 things you love about yourself.
It is important to love yourself and to love who you are. Know that you are brave, bright, and beautiful and feel free to flaunt it apologetically.
DON'T
Compare yourself to other women and who they are and what they have.
They are them and you are you. The grass is always greener on the other side remember that. It doesn't matter what side you're on so just love you for you and don't walk away from who you truly are.
DO
Love a man who can love you for all of you.
Having someone love you for what they want you to be rather than who you are isn't worth the time. Remember, forever is a long time. You want someone you can be comfortable with and are happy with. If you aren't happy, it doesn't matter what you do, they won't ever be truly happy either.
DON'T
Change yourself for the sake of someone you like.
Butterflies be gone! If he doesn't notice you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best. Yes, I know "but reality doesn't work that way" but that is because we don't let it. We control how reality works. Change takes time but all good things do. So stay strong stay proud and don't ever give up. Teach generations of girls that they deserve better and one day we will all get better. Men can't live without us ladies no matter how hard they try, they will come around.
DO
Be confident in the work you do and the independence you have created for yourself
It is important to know who you are and be proud of it. Its O.K to want a man but not to need one. Get on your own two feet. Feel good about who you are and what you've accomplished. Doesn't matter what life you choose but make sure it is in fact YOUR choice.
DON'T
Let others tell you who you should be or what career you should pursue.
It is great to have people give advice when you're not sure as to what route to take but it is just that, options. Don't let others pressure you into something that won't make you happy. If you don't know which way to turn, there are plenty of online assessments that take a personality analysis and give you a list of fields that may suite you. I suggest looking into it and doing your research on what you feel works best for you. You may be surprised at what you find.
DO
Read articles and blogs that empower you and encourage you and build you up.
There are podcasts, books, and so much more that you can tune yourself into and get the most empowering messages possible. Stay tuned for the blog on my favorite MUST haves coming soon.
DONT
Read or listen to things that encourage you to become a passenger in your own body.
Some articles, blogs, and podcasts encourage women to be submissive and discourage individuality or independence. Don't let them bring you down. Remember, if men are left with no other option then to accept women as powerful individuals that can hold their own, their mindset will change all by itself. But remember it has to start with you.
DO
Find hobbies you love and surround yourself with people that believe what you believe.
There are so many meetup groups and events for women of empowherment that you can join. I will be adding those into the upcoming article as well. (I know I keep hinting at it and I will get there soon I promise!)
DON'T
Keep in company that bring you down rather then build you up.
Sometimes it's the people closest to us that let us down in this area. You can still love them just love them from a distance. You don't need toxic people in your lives. Personally, I just tune people out when they start saying things that bring me down. Recently I learned that stress is the number one cause for a majority of the problems women face in their lives. (I will try to get the speaker to come in to talk more on that once we get the podcast started). So let's dump the stress and free ourselves of all the pressures that society throws at us. We are stronger then we believe and we deserve so much more!
What are some of the DOs and DON'Ts you practice? How would you inspire growth in those around you? Are you ready for change or will you just accept how things are? I know I am ready to make a difference....Are you?
Scrolling through Facebook is a lot of fun until FB decides "I have a post I KNOW you'll love".... Dear FB you don't get me at ALL!! In case it isn't already EXTREMELY obvious, I am a strong willed feminist that believes I deserve more than a some guy who kind of sort of cares about me and only when I match his desires EXACTLY. So when I come across articles like "How to attract men" or "How to get your crush to notice you" my blood boils to explosive levels.
First off, why are women writing these trash articles to began with? I'm sorry are you ENCOURAGING men to to undermine women?! Please princesses, step aside and let the Queens do their job. So in light of my pure hatred of this ridiculous culture of women having to chase men for attention, I decided to make my own blog about "How to be the realest You, you can be!" But first let me clarify that the reason these women give such TERRIBLE advice is because they get paid to do so. It is a cycle. Follow bad advice, end up more depressed with more problems, read more "self-help" articles, become even more miserable and keep the cycle going so they get paid more and more for your struggles. The more you read, the more money they make. Now I am writing this article because I want to be a part of the growth we all deserve for both men and women alike. Because the day women accept their true potential and worth is the day men finally get their shit together and become more human then animal.
DO
Look in the mirror every day and call out at least 5 things you love about yourself.
It is important to love yourself and to love who you are. Know that you are brave, bright, and beautiful and feel free to flaunt it apologetically.
DON'T
Compare yourself to other women and who they are and what they have.
They are them and you are you. The grass is always greener on the other side remember that. It doesn't matter what side you're on so just love you for you and don't walk away from who you truly are.
DO
Love a man who can love you for all of you.
Having someone love you for what they want you to be rather than who you are isn't worth the time. Remember, forever is a long time. You want someone you can be comfortable with and are happy with. If you aren't happy, it doesn't matter what you do, they won't ever be truly happy either.
DON'T
Change yourself for the sake of someone you like.
Butterflies be gone! If he doesn't notice you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best. Yes, I know "but reality doesn't work that way" but that is because we don't let it. We control how reality works. Change takes time but all good things do. So stay strong stay proud and don't ever give up. Teach generations of girls that they deserve better and one day we will all get better. Men can't live without us ladies no matter how hard they try, they will come around.
DO
Be confident in the work you do and the independence you have created for yourself
It is important to know who you are and be proud of it. Its O.K to want a man but not to need one. Get on your own two feet. Feel good about who you are and what you've accomplished. Doesn't matter what life you choose but make sure it is in fact YOUR choice.
DON'T
Let others tell you who you should be or what career you should pursue.
It is great to have people give advice when you're not sure as to what route to take but it is just that, options. Don't let others pressure you into something that won't make you happy. If you don't know which way to turn, there are plenty of online assessments that take a personality analysis and give you a list of fields that may suite you. I suggest looking into it and doing your research on what you feel works best for you. You may be surprised at what you find.
DO
Read articles and blogs that empower you and encourage you and build you up.
There are podcasts, books, and so much more that you can tune yourself into and get the most empowering messages possible. Stay tuned for the blog on my favorite MUST haves coming soon.
DONT
Read or listen to things that encourage you to become a passenger in your own body.
Some articles, blogs, and podcasts encourage women to be submissive and discourage individuality or independence. Don't let them bring you down. Remember, if men are left with no other option then to accept women as powerful individuals that can hold their own, their mindset will change all by itself. But remember it has to start with you.
DO
Find hobbies you love and surround yourself with people that believe what you believe.
There are so many meetup groups and events for women of empowherment that you can join. I will be adding those into the upcoming article as well. (I know I keep hinting at it and I will get there soon I promise!)
DON'T
Keep in company that bring you down rather then build you up.
Sometimes it's the people closest to us that let us down in this area. You can still love them just love them from a distance. You don't need toxic people in your lives. Personally, I just tune people out when they start saying things that bring me down. Recently I learned that stress is the number one cause for a majority of the problems women face in their lives. (I will try to get the speaker to come in to talk more on that once we get the podcast started). So let's dump the stress and free ourselves of all the pressures that society throws at us. We are stronger then we believe and we deserve so much more!
What are some of the DOs and DON'Ts you practice? How would you inspire growth in those around you? Are you ready for change or will you just accept how things are? I know I am ready to make a difference....Are you?
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