The Difference Between a Queen and A Princess
Valentine's Day was a couple of days ago and I celebrated as a single and dressed up for myself rather than for someone else. Now someone assured me that I would find my person someday, and of course I wasn't worried about that. Now the most interesting thing this friend said is that he himself prefers a Queen that can make a king out of someone that isn't but see this is where I disagree...What he wants is a princess and NOT a Queen. So of course I immediately pulled out my laptop and started typing. If the title and this intro didn't already give it away, the topic for today is the the difference between a Queen and a Princess.
I started off as a princess. I used to put the person I was with first, I would always put his happiness before mine. I would try to teach him to be responsible and to communicate and to be a more compassionate person. I would try to teach him the value of women and how to respect them, etc. But the story always ended the same. They would never learn and I would always be left behind hurt and broken. But I realized something, a princess can't create a king she can only babysit a prince. Because how can a Princess create a person meant for a higher title? That was the day I learned I needed to be a Queen first before I could ever find my King.
See as a Queen I understand that it is not my responsibility to raise a child to be a king, that is the mother's job. It is her responsibility to ensure that he grows up to be a man who respects women, who understands that a woman's place is by his side and not at his feet. It is her job to ensure that he understands that a woman is to be treated as a Queen and not a princess and to not dream of being with a Queen when he himself is not fit to be a King. I learned that as a Queen I need to focus on ruling my Queendom and to expect that the person meant to be my King, will be ready to fill his roll and will already show is abilities to fill the position b his behavior and his own actions towards his Kingdom.
Now I know what everyone is anxiously waiting for....so here is the break down of the differences in the easiest way to understand...
A Princess is someone who..
- Serves the prince and who puts herself beneath those around her
- Someone who tries to make a king out of a prince
- Someone who takes up the role of the mother and continues to spoil and pamper
- Asks for permission for things to please the prince's ego
A Prince is someone who...
- is immature and demands everyone to serve him
- has no real respect for women but pretends to by acting as though he cares. His actions speak louder than his words
- He expects the princess to do all the work and has no intention of taking on responsibility or showing any signs of compassion
- He expects things to be about him 100% of the time but refuses to take any blame for any of his actions
- Demands constant updates and requires the princess to get permission for simple things
A Queen is someone who....
- Hold her ground on her beliefs and demands respect
-Admits when she is wrong but never bows down to anyone
- Expects the best out of those around her and refuses to babysit a grown man
- Looks for someone who could stand tall beside her not someone to serve her or expects her to serve him
-She expects independence, intelligence, strength, empathy, and compassion without it having to be explained
-She demands open communication and respect and gives the same in return but never gives anything more than what she gets
- She gives her King his freedom and space as she demands her own- trust and security play a huge part in this
- Understands that they both still have growing to do and chose to grow together from that point forward but have done a lot of growing on their own first.
A King is someone who....
- Stays true to his Queen and understands and respects her authority
- Understands that they stand as one and one is never greater than the other
- Understands and respects women and understands the concept of consent and the importance of the woman feeling safe and comfortable
- Has open communication but knows when to leave things be rather than pushing
- Trusts the Queen rather than monitor her every move and action
- Never betrays the Queen's trust
- Fulfills the expectations of the Queen
-Understands that they both still have growing to do and chose to grow together from that point forward but have done a lot of growing on their own first.
- Is able to take responsibility and holds his own in the relationship
Now of course there are more to these roles than what is listed but there are things in human nature that just have to be felt and can't simply be put down in words. Now it's not to say any of these are bad it is just to understand what type of person you are and where you fit in and who you would belong with. I learned that I was a Queen trying to be a Princess and it wasn't who I was or what I was meant to be. I wasn't happy with a Prince and of course I wasn't truly a Princess so they weren't happy with me. But I have found my place as a Queen and am more confident in this role and I know I belong. Maybe one day I fill find a King to rule by my side, but till then I am quite capable of ruling my Queendom on my own.
So where do you fall? Are you a Princess/Prince or Queen/King? How true do these roles hold for you? Do you agree with my list or would you change a few things? If so what? Share your stories and your experiences. Have you found your soulmate or are you still waiting for the right one to come along?
I started off as a princess. I used to put the person I was with first, I would always put his happiness before mine. I would try to teach him to be responsible and to communicate and to be a more compassionate person. I would try to teach him the value of women and how to respect them, etc. But the story always ended the same. They would never learn and I would always be left behind hurt and broken. But I realized something, a princess can't create a king she can only babysit a prince. Because how can a Princess create a person meant for a higher title? That was the day I learned I needed to be a Queen first before I could ever find my King.
See as a Queen I understand that it is not my responsibility to raise a child to be a king, that is the mother's job. It is her responsibility to ensure that he grows up to be a man who respects women, who understands that a woman's place is by his side and not at his feet. It is her job to ensure that he understands that a woman is to be treated as a Queen and not a princess and to not dream of being with a Queen when he himself is not fit to be a King. I learned that as a Queen I need to focus on ruling my Queendom and to expect that the person meant to be my King, will be ready to fill his roll and will already show is abilities to fill the position b his behavior and his own actions towards his Kingdom.
Now I know what everyone is anxiously waiting for....so here is the break down of the differences in the easiest way to understand...
A Princess is someone who..
- Serves the prince and who puts herself beneath those around her
- Someone who tries to make a king out of a prince
- Someone who takes up the role of the mother and continues to spoil and pamper
- Asks for permission for things to please the prince's ego
A Prince is someone who...
- is immature and demands everyone to serve him
- has no real respect for women but pretends to by acting as though he cares. His actions speak louder than his words
- He expects the princess to do all the work and has no intention of taking on responsibility or showing any signs of compassion
- He expects things to be about him 100% of the time but refuses to take any blame for any of his actions
- Demands constant updates and requires the princess to get permission for simple things
A Queen is someone who....
- Hold her ground on her beliefs and demands respect
-Admits when she is wrong but never bows down to anyone
- Expects the best out of those around her and refuses to babysit a grown man
- Looks for someone who could stand tall beside her not someone to serve her or expects her to serve him
-She expects independence, intelligence, strength, empathy, and compassion without it having to be explained
-She demands open communication and respect and gives the same in return but never gives anything more than what she gets
- She gives her King his freedom and space as she demands her own- trust and security play a huge part in this
- Understands that they both still have growing to do and chose to grow together from that point forward but have done a lot of growing on their own first.
A King is someone who....
- Stays true to his Queen and understands and respects her authority
- Understands that they stand as one and one is never greater than the other
- Understands and respects women and understands the concept of consent and the importance of the woman feeling safe and comfortable
- Has open communication but knows when to leave things be rather than pushing
- Trusts the Queen rather than monitor her every move and action
- Never betrays the Queen's trust
- Fulfills the expectations of the Queen
-Understands that they both still have growing to do and chose to grow together from that point forward but have done a lot of growing on their own first.
- Is able to take responsibility and holds his own in the relationship
Now of course there are more to these roles than what is listed but there are things in human nature that just have to be felt and can't simply be put down in words. Now it's not to say any of these are bad it is just to understand what type of person you are and where you fit in and who you would belong with. I learned that I was a Queen trying to be a Princess and it wasn't who I was or what I was meant to be. I wasn't happy with a Prince and of course I wasn't truly a Princess so they weren't happy with me. But I have found my place as a Queen and am more confident in this role and I know I belong. Maybe one day I fill find a King to rule by my side, but till then I am quite capable of ruling my Queendom on my own.
So where do you fall? Are you a Princess/Prince or Queen/King? How true do these roles hold for you? Do you agree with my list or would you change a few things? If so what? Share your stories and your experiences. Have you found your soulmate or are you still waiting for the right one to come along?
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